The young lady is 22 and her cousin is 14. They contact each other through social media. The little girl considers her cousin as her big sister and asks for keeping secret.
The big sister has told the girl that she shouldn’t do that until she’s 16 and must use protection, but she’s not sure whether the girl would listen to her.
She would like to tell her parents, but knows they may be furious if they knew what the girl has been up to. She does not know what she should do.
I don’t know how the girl’s parents taught her about self-protection and necessary precautions, but for me, the girl may need better sex education to increase the awareness of the danger of no protection.
Here are some things you need to clarify with your child about safe sex:
Stress the importance of safety always.
Tell your child that their safety is your first and foremost concern and emphasize that safety is a non-negotiable point.
Introduce them some basic knowledge about STDs, their symptoms, and that they may stay with them for a lifetime once they got a STD.
For teens or preteens, make it clear that the unprotected activity may lead to serious consequences, and ask them to think about it thoroughly.
For younger children, the information is not needed temporally. If they ask, you can simply explain that people may need to see a doctor if they don’t pay attention to safety.
I do hope all children can raise their awareness of protecting themselves and don’t agree to personal activities too easily.