What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

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I do believe my husband is a nacassi. He is going therapy for substance abuse and I do believe he manipulates the therapist.
 It is hard to live with because I find myself always trying to defuse the problem before he starts an argument. I find myself not feeling good about myself. And pray for myself. Everyone he thought had his back has turned away. There are reasons this has happened and it's karma for everything he has done to me. I am looking for a vounsler who I can talk to so I can have peace.
I was going through the same thing recently and some....I ran away with only the clothes on my back and am still hiding. I'm scared to death of him and had i stayed he would soon suck out the rest of my life and take my soul next. A nightmare and i was so head over heals. I don't know what to do now. I can't hide the rest of my life
Hey, I’m very sorry for what’s happening to you. I can see how terrible it is to have to stay with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder because a friend of mine used to be in a relationship with a man with narcissism too and the whole relationship was just a hell. Her ex only cared about himself and continually belittled, denied and suppressed her which eventually led to her Depression. He also refused to break up their relationship because he’s just so wild about controlling. My friend was so scared of him and desperate to leave him and go back to her normal life. So after another time of threating from her ex, she called on her families and some friends to pick her up from the place they lived together and left that guy forever. I understand you are frightened and you are very brave to leave him. Staying with him would only lead to endless suffering and torturing. But hiding is a short term solution, not a cure. You have to save the rest of your life. Maybe you can seek assistance from your family and friends too. Staying alone is dangerous and you need your family and friends to keep you company so next time he appears you can be brave and safe enough to tell him to his face that you’ve broke up with him and get rid of him. The most important thing is to stay safe. Never put yourself in danger. God bless you.
Wow that's a scary answer
Don’t go off and cry..tell him his abuse is unacceptable and don’t let him keep his abuse a secret. Ask him if he thinks because no one knows that it’s okey. Be strong and know that you have to love yourself enough to expect respect and you only can feel for him if it’s returned. Tell him you love him and wish you could like him. He will only respect you if you respect yourself. Married 49 yrs and raised two children and my husband as well he is Irish
Sounds familar
Can't believe this
I literally had to RUN away with my van loaded down with clothes!!!! No rhymn nor reason for what was happening other than to say it almost put me in my grave !!!! I awoke in the hospital 2 days later on a resporater and my arms fastened down and my head throbbing in pain. Like I slammed my head into a brick wall or something ! And absolutely no memory at all. No memory at all. When doctors felt I was medically fine to be released I was mandated by the courts to enter a physic ward. Which I successfully completed. Never felt better... Honestly !!! But had to come back here cause I'm homeless. Letting him know it's just until I find a place. I have eyes ( feelers) out everywhere. But today was my 1st day out and the 1st five minutes out of the hospital he started blasting me with shit !!!  He's been picking fights with me since !!! It's after 5am right now. I just am speechless right now with his attitude. NO sympathy
or compassion for what I'm going thru. It's ALL ABOUT HIM...Seriously !!! Mind blowing to say the least. First relationship in close to 15 years because of this fear of men. He's proving me right when it comes to why I stayed away !!!
I'm 63 and HOMELESS !!!!!!
This should not be happening to me at my age!!!
Wow,u all are with am amatoure!!! I've got the grand poopaa. Of Master manipulators. They will suck every bit of life outta you.
Absolutely right, I was on life support for two weeks. Hospitalized four months.WhenI left the hospital he manipulated ourdaughter all her life both wouldn't let me in my own home. I was still using a walker.I stayed at my last friends house a week, sheblater became another lover. My friends, brother,  sister, 2cousins all had affairs with him. Not including outside lovers men and women. Story is never ending. I forgot to mention I'mCRAZY, PSYCHO, delusion you name it. My so called friends all turned against me I was the firyy no good.I had brain damage from being so dehydrated,  burned a hole in my esophicus from extreme throwing up and diarria.
How long I went without any liquids or food ??? I'm a recovering alcoholic, I know how I am after a Bender, that was no hangover. Plus, I started hallucinating no Dr. no ambulance was called for help. Scarey story and this is just the tip.
I’m so sorry to hear that. God has a plan for you. Timing is everything.
The best advice for living with a narcissistic person is to not! If you want happiness, respect, peace, and real love then the best results will come through prayers and perseverance! Love God first and then love yourself! If you don’t love in that manner trust and believe that time will have go by and the situation will only get worse because they are just as you see them right now! Remember Love God first and then Love You!
Im wondering if damage to the amygadala through an auto accident 9 yrs ago(son went through the windshield), then while in recovery at the hospital he fell out of bed, he did have a subduro hematoma. Sustained injury to left side of head above eyebrow again., has been jumped and punched same spot, worked at s logging place, got hit with a huge log, same spot on his face/head. Could he have without a doubt aquired this NPD?
Hello, NPD is a psychological disorder, and your son is more like an organic disease, it is recommended to go to the hospital to check the head MRI or CT.
Yes, Depression is one of the most common psychiatric conditions in individuals with chronic traumatic brain injury (TBI). Though depression has detrimental effects in TBI and network dysfunction is a “hallmark” of TBI and depression, there have not been any prior investigations of connectivity-based neuroimaging biomarkers for comorbid depression in TBI. We utilized resting-state functional magnetic resonance imaging to identify altered amygdala connectivity in individuals with chronic TBI (8 years post-injury on average) exhibiting comorbid depressive symptoms (N = 31), relative to chronic TBI individuals having minimal depressive symptoms (N = 23). Connectivity analysis of these participant sub-groups revealed that the TBI-plus-depressive symptoms group showed relative increases in amygdala connectivity primarily in the regions that are part of the salience, somatomotor, dorsal attention, and visual networks (pvoxel < 0.01, pcluster < 0.025). Relative increases in amygdala connectivity in the TBI-plus-depressive symptoms group were also observed within areas of the limbic–cortical mood-regulating circuit (the left dorsomedial and right dorsolateral prefrontal cortices and thalamus) and the brainstem. Further analysis revealed that spatially dissociable patterns of correlation between amygdala connectivity and symptom severity according to subtypes (Cognitive and Affective) of depressive symptoms (pvoxel < 0.01, pcluster < 0.025). Taken together, these results suggest that amygdala connectivity may be a potentially effective neuroimaging biomarker for comorbid depressive symptoms in chronic TBI. I am in Neuropsychology and my brother changed mainly,  at age 25. His accident was at age 16.
No need to complain. If you don’t like it just leave it. Sorry but if you don’t take action don’t say a thing because YOU look bad.
You must love and understand the man you are with. Just go before something bad happens to you.
You must not comprehend medical. I am in neuropathology
Explain further please. I miss read. Talk to me. Is it as EVIL as I thought
Unlike high self-confidence and high self-esteem, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) affects many aspects of one’s life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. In general, you may be unhappy with life and disappointed when others are not admiring you or giving you privilege and attention. Your work, personal, and social relationships are likely suffering, though, you are unable to see your own role in these occurrences. Individuals with NPD are unable to realize the damaging effects their behavior is causing themselves and others. If you have this condition, people likely will not enjoy being around and you may feel unfulfilled at work, home, and in your social life. As for depression, it’s said that if you suffer from depression, being around someone with narcissistic tendencies can be psychologically toxic and can contribute to a worsening of your symptoms.
Thank u hun...very well said and very educational...
Is there treatment for narcissistic disorder? If so where could I seek this treatment. I would like to look into this for my ex-husband who I love and don’t want to give up on. We live in Florence Arizona which is between Phoenix and Tucson.
Mrs. Underwood, there's no specific medication for this psychological disorder. Medication is sometimes involves to manage the common symptoms in psychological disorders. Currently psychologists use talk therapy. For psychologists near you, you may check here. https://www.ehealthscores.com/providers/listing/AZ/FLORENCE/103TC0700X/
Looking for a book paper or stories examples of hystronic personality disorders
Good luck.. I dont think there will ever be a cure or treatment, affective anyway...
My ex shows signs of this behavior in my opinion...it's like he can't be faithful to anyone and uses others to get further in life with no consideration of others....and he preys on weaker women to get what he wants...am I wrong in never wanting contact with him ever again and how does this behavior effect others after a break up?
In my opinion, you're right to leave him. You're not cut out to help him. You have your own life.
Narcissism is NOT curable! Period! And a narcissist will continue to treat you like crap, then be very nice the next day like you were queen of his world. They cannot take any kind of criticism and dislike it when people disagree with them about ANYTHING! It makes for a very cinfusing relationship especially when they are nice, because you love them. You are better off just walking away. mi d you, they will try to stay in your life because they cannot handle rejection!
My husband and I have been married for 27 years. Our relationship is exactly as you said. He can be loving and then cruel to me. He can’t take constructive or suggestions for behavior.  He frequently threats divorce, but nerve follows through. I’ve told him if he wants out I will fairly divide our money equally. I live day to day, unsure of what to do. He doesn’t want to spend anything on me, so I have suggested legally splitting all assets (as we developed, managed and sold our businesses together) and the jointly contributing to the home expenses, but paying for the rest of our needs ourselves. He says yes, but I feel he doesn’t like loosing control, and I I die he’s not the benefactor of my estate. I looking for direction.
Find the door and exit ASAP.   do not wait because this abuse will result in a disease in your body,  GET OUT  he will not change.  Save yourself
Does substance abuse fit into this behavioral situation? I have a younger sister that literally has 2 split personalities. She has family members fooled! She hides smoking, and drinks alcohol and denies it. She is in mid 50's. Very sad because she is currently living with my mother who is 83, and tormenting her.
No really, NPD is more like "I'm the most beautiful women in this world", "You must love me the most because I'm so great, I'm the greatest", or people would say a typical NPD celebrity is president Trump. Substance abuse, or addiction, is usually associated to mental health conditions like depression, or anxiety. However, from your description, multiple personality disorder is a possibility in your younger sister's case.
Substance abuse is often a factor in NPD which is thought to be borne out of deep seated feelings of inadequacy and extreme low self esteem and self concept.
Well, you mentioned NPD is born out of deep seated feelings of inadequacy and extreme low self-esteem and self concept, which I believe is true to some extent, but I do not see substance absue being a factor. None of what you mentioned has something to do with that.
Dr. DeAndre Wright,
I am puzzled at times in my residency at MU.I am proud to be able to work with the veterans. My question is one that has myself perplexed at times hence, there had been on several occasions during diagnosis that mirroring,and traits of NPD overlaps with BPD. I seek a more definite understanding however, as this occurs my first thought is bipolar borderline. Would my theoretical viewpoint be more inaccurate than accurate? How could I further investigate to see if, my diagnosis is accurate? I usually add bipolar borderline when mania plays a role with the patient. I do know with borderline trying to stop them from sliding into the area of dark triad sometimes we win, and often not. That's  kills my spirit.
Hi, Michele. I though Dr. DeAndre Wright was not a professional until I saw your reply. Was I wrong? Please tell me. Thx.
Don’t let your spirit die. Ther are those of us out here looking fir answers. I had no idea what BPD was until I stumbled onto it tonight.  Thank goodness I did. And learned more about DID. Makes so much more sense. Keep the Faith, please.
Don’t let your spirit die. Ther are those of us out here looking fir answers. I had no idea what BPD was until I stumbled onto it tonight.  Thank goodness I did. And learned more about DID. Makes so much more sense. Keep the Faith, please.
Symptoms include emotional instability, feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, impulsivity, and impaired social relationships.
People may experience:
Behavioral: antisocial behavior, compulsive behavior, hostility, impulsivity, irritability, risk taking behaviors, self-destructive behavior, self-harm, social isolation, or lack of restraint
Mood: anger, anxiety, general discontent, guilt, loneliness, mood swings, or sadness
Psychological: depression, distorted self-image, grandiosity, or narcissism
Also common: thoughts of suicide
If you live with a narracist long enough. Is it normal to feel all these above feelings? Due to thier dizzying tactics not to mention how smart and clever they are at making you feel like your crazy etc.
It is normal to experience all these feelings if you have to live with a narcissist. Absolutely.
I’m afraid my daughter is narcissistic. She spends all her money on herself, and has fetish for expensive clothe. Her house is full of junk. She buys so much and she is always broke. She has a 2nd husband that provides her with a house and car. They have been divorced for years. She has a boyfriend on the side that she keeps hidden from the guy who provides for her. Her life is a complete lie, and mess.
Being narcissistic isn't a disease, it's a personaltiy, established during childhood and adolescence, it's her way to view herself, the world, and the interaction between her and the world around her. It's uneasy to change it. Usually an acute change in life may impact her and make her change.
Have to disagree there at least 80% of my family are narcisstic I really believe it is in the blood I.ve seen it in 3 different generations
Of course Narcissistic is a disease, and genetics play a role, it's a disease inherited in family.
I think my ex has it, narcissistic, probably not as serious as a disease, I dont' know, something's definately wrong.

He always complains everyone not doing well, actually everyone works hard, the job, the household, the homework, he's the one who does nothing but keep shouting at people.
Personality disorders are in 90% of the population. 10% are "mentally challenged".
Meh= Apathy lethargy sociopath

We have turned feelings into disorders. Awesome!
Here are some pills! Bye now
Do narcissistic used flying monkey tatics?
My husband is a narcissist but refuses to acknowledge it. I wonder at times what I must have been going through when we met, I have experienced so much physical,mental, psychological, emotional and verbal abuse by him.
Oh, poor you! For those who suffer from this disorder, of course they won’t recognize it as a “DISORDER”. They could be so ruthless and selfish that they won’t spare a single second to think about others’ feelings! Honey, you’ve already suffered a lot. Don’t waste your time trying to make a compromise! After all, you will be the one that hurts most! Go ahead and get a divorce. You do deserve a better man!
Lorraine, don’t just jump and tell someone get a divorce. We don’t know their full story. We know nothing about their lives and attachments. We cannot be bias because it’s peoples lives are at stake. We must look at both sides, get the facts and evaluate. It takes 2 to tango. There is a cause and effect in anything that we do. They come here to voice out their feelings and seek clarity.

Again, I don’t condone the behavior.
My situation was so severe that it took divine intervention -literally -to cure it.  I was married to a narcissist who told me at the very beginning after he had injured me too badly to leave “My way or hit the highway”....I already knew what he was willing to do to me if I crossed him.  

So then I begin delving into being perfect; if I was perfect he would have no reason to abuse me.

Well it backfired and I began demanding that my children be perfect to “help make me look good”.... Now I’ve lost my children, understandably so. I was so terrified of my husband and had no family -zero- I was trapped truly trapped.

So in desperation I cried out to God and after 30 long long years of abuse I said “One of us has got to go.  Please let it be me.”~ 90 days later he was dead. He was immediately diagnosed with stage four lung cancer and the doctors gave him a year- the Lord gave him 90 days.

He never confessed to all of the physical damage he did to me he never confessed or showed any remorse for how he had destroyed our family with his 53 year addiction to the vilest violence & pornography.  I do not know if he molested our daughter but it seems that there’s a lot of evidence and I’m left heartsick frankly. I wish God had taken me. Taken me instead.  But you know what? – I’m gonna pick myself up dust myself off and get back into a life.  I have to believe the best is yet to come!  

My fear is that I do not know how to love~ only survive.
Sorry to hear that. But as you said, you have to get back into life and believe that the best is yet to come! You know, time can cure many things, and all you have to do is to believe and take action. Take action to do other things that can make you forget such terrible experiences. Take action to communicate with your families and friends. Take action to learn how to love again. I think that everything we experienced in our life are just experiences. No matter it is good or bad, we have to face it, experience it, leave it somewhere and then go on our life.
My wife and I have been through some really stressful times the past 21 months. I have not been handling it well at all. So much to the point that my wife has changed dramatically over the course of that time. I kept finding ways to blame her until about a week ago. She said something to me that I didn't know what she meant. Later that night after we stopped talking and she went to bed. I looked up the term she used in describing me over the past 12 years. I was blown away as I read it. I stopped and reflected back on my past behaviors and actions. I was horrified. Since then I have been reading every night to learn as much as I can. I have a scheduled appt with my therapist and I asked my wife if she would be a part of the conversation. I want to be open and honest. I need to take responsibility for my very bad behaviors. I want to work on this to be a better me. I love my wife dearly. I just hope I can repair the damage and eventually work on us again. Listen to your spouse, your life partner, your best friends. I have been horrible to my marriage.