Signs and symptoms of depression comes in many ways and forms. How one person reflects depression is and can be much different than another, even those who are related to one another.
Depression is NOT something that you just get over. It's not something one can "control", it just happens!
As for how one feels because their adult children being shit heads and the parent feeling depressed... True, one must own their own feelings and actions but being in a position, as I have, it wasn't me who was the root cause of my depression but my mom. Even well into adulthood she treated me like crap. Removing myself from her toxicity only fueled her fire. And then when she committed suicide on Mother's Day 2003 it was me who my adult brothers blamed. I guess some think I'm an easy mark and scapegoat.
I've risen above it all. It is far from easy! I fight with my own self every single day to not allow myself to be brought down.
In 2006, at the age of 36, I waa diagnosed with having had multiple strokes and TIA's. Lost a job i loved. To this day I am still having these strokes and TIA's - had a stroke just last week. My strokes triggered a LOT of unknowns for me! PTSD, Bipolar II, Anxiety disorder, Vasculitis of the brain, my migraines went from every so often to chronic (these things can sometimes last 3-4 weeks!)
I see, not only, an amazing psychiatrist to help with the depression and bipolar but am also in with a good therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral health therapy. It helps! It helps me learn better ways of coping.
Never give up hope! And look for the root causes of the WHY's! Sometimes, even with family members and/or friends, cutting toxic relationships is a necessity for your own stability and health.
Hoping that i didn't sound "preachy" but SOMETIMES one has to love themselves MORE, take a step back and just think without overanalyzing things.
The best thing for anyone who feels like theyre suffering from depression, for whatever the cause may be, find a good psychiatrist who can help stabilize you and start working with a therapist. Medication will help if you allow it to and going to a good therapist (get a referral from your doctor), go in and be ready to work on yourself, what has happened to cause your depression and be ready to learn better coping skills.
There is NO SHAME in anything to do with mental health issues. Just take that huge step and get some help!
Best of luck