How do you help a person with dementia?

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Communicate with him regularly and discuss everything in daily life.

From my own personal experience, don't argue or show your frustration. The person can't help any of the many different types of reactions. When the person is asking either the same question 50 times(don't say you asked me that so many times). Calmly answer the question twice then distract them by walking with the person to a different area calmly, directing to a different  easy subject. Have ready &all around the house things to do. Look at bird books talking generally about what your looking at. If there are any small gardens outside bring weeding gloves and tools. No conversation needed just start doing the easier stuff &they will follow. Sit &talk(don't push for the person to remember everything)about your favorite memories of growing up. You will be surprised &joyus as you witness the happiness &you will see in the persons eyes as well as the spark of rememberance of loving times. If you need to make sure that the person who needs to go somewhere outside their comfort zone, explain in short detail /easier words and I have found by writing everything on a whole perfurable unlined white paper(use red,blue or orange markers)and put it right smack on the middle of the freezer door. Show the person a few times and surprisingly the person will calm down as that is one of the places your around all throughout the day is still a habit. You might be asked a few questions during the day/night but eventually by repetition the person constantly sees and rereading that note. Best advice for you is don't argue, walk away for a few minutes if the situation gets too overwhelming. Hugs, kisses and keep things simple. Sad, heartbreaking having the roles in your home &family having to switch but we were loved and cared for and now we are giving back. If it's in the early stages demand testing, including high blood pressure(one of the mitigating factors) plus the correct medication, Do not allow the Dr's to put it off. Early medication regiment does slow down the progression. Unfortunately insurance companies don't want to pay for it as it is expensive(get the Dr. to write the prescription &needed paperwork and the insurance company will buy the exact same brand for $1000 cheaper) The insurance company doesn't believe in spending money on expensive  but works because it won't cure the men and women having to live with it. What's that saying "what goes around comes around". I'm not a mean or viscous person but I'mtired of these companies don't look outside the box. I hope this helped and hopefully I didn't say anything wrong as this is my first time. I have been and still are having to watch this happening to someone who I love deeply. Stay strong.

I have same experience. My grandma is 78, and she has dementia for 3 years. She lives by herself in her daily life. She was diagnosed in the winter three years ago; the diseases have advanced quickly. My grandma has lost the ability to feel cold and she can’t remember what she had done in the previous day!
I have three sisters, we take turns in having our grandma living with us after she agree to, if not we take turns in going to her home every night to give her meds and food.
Sometimes, we would take her to the park, bask in the sun, and talk to her about the old days, such as the good times when she took care of us when we were little, or some of the things our grandpa loved to eat. In addition, we have sent her a dog to accompany her. Since then, she was self-sufficient enough to be on her own. This was an almost magical since she was getting lively and talkative.
So, accompanying and chatting is very useful, which all can distract them, Let them not fall into their own world. Good luck.
Thanks for your advice.  I do get overwhelmed at times, but do my best.

Hey, I think it’s very frustrating when u see someone with dementia. Their memory just progressively became worse. AND you have Nothing 2 do. There’s an old kind man in our community. He usually chatted with me when I was a small child. But last few yrs his memory has became worse n worse. I don’t why this nice man has to suffer it! And then personal hygiene became a serious problem 4 him. Really serious! I don’t even want to describe. But he used to be an elegant gentleman. I guess he suffers more than we expected.

I don’t know what happened to u but my suggestion to treat them with honor and use a respectful tone of voice. Conversation could be a great challenge but just have more talks wiz them.

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