According to UN, 1 in 3 women and girls experience some form of violence in their lifetime, most often at the hands of their husbands or partners. Of course, not every man tends to abuse a woman, but researchers have found that some men are more likely to do so than others.
Suppose you are a single girl and want to find a boyfriend from the 100 men in the next building, how can you tell which men are more likely to violate you and keep away from them? Well, here are some tips.
Their views on masculinity matter a lot
Masculinity refers to the roles and behaviors associated with boys and men. Traditional stereotypes about masculinity include strength, dominance and sexual attractiveness.
At present time, a gentleman usually ranks good health, a harmonious family life and a good relationship with partner as more important than being sexually attractive and being stronger than women. In other word, nowadays, masculinity often refers to men's willingness to counter the traditional stereotypes and see women as their equals.
Men who still believe they should be more powerful and dominant than women are more likely to commit violence against women.
Besides, those who believe in rape myth and justify sexual aggression against women are more likely to rape women than other men. Their male friends are also more likely to do so, as the old saying goes, “if you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.”
This has been a social risk
If most men in a society believe that they should be more superior than women, then the whole society or the entire nation will embody this kind of inequality and sexism.
For instance, gender inequality occurs in India and Tanzania all along, and the rates of violence against women in these two countries are always higher than other countries.
Sexist ideas of individuals lead to a sexist society, and sexist society can lead to more sexist ideas and violence in turn. For example, suppose there are sexist norms in the next building, though most men there never commit violence against women, they tend to turn a blind eye to other people’s violence, virtually causing more violence.
To conclude, girls, be careful with those with sexist ideas. Those who believe in gender equality are more likely to be respectful partners or husbands.